Hi Healing People! We are officially loaded on step 2 of cutting off the toxic! (If you missed step 1, recognizing the toxic, or need a refresher…click here )
Cutting off the toxic can mean something different for each person. It’s important for you to carry out the best solution that works for you and your situation when dealing with the toxic. Dealing with toxic relationships can be difficult, but remember that it is okay to separate from all that does not serve you.
Here are 3 tips to help you handle toxic relationships.
1. Tell the toxic person how you feel. In some instances, a toxic person may not realize they are being toxic. The only way to know is to, if you feel comfortable, tell the toxic person exactly how you feel. If the toxic person is not open to your expression or invalidates you, it is okay to cease the communication. All situations are different and your intuition will guide you to setting healthy boundaries.
2. Set healthy boundaries. Setting healthy boundaries may seem difficult at first, especially if you’ve never been taught how to do so. In order to set healthy boundaries, you must be honest with yourself about your needs and remind yourself that it is okay to have needs and for them to be met. Take time to determine what you do and don’t like. Each day, remind yourself of your boundaries and never say “yes” when you mean no. It is perfectly okay to be assertive in your life and your happiness.
3. Cut off the toxic. I will never say that cutting off toxic relationships is easy, but it can be done. You will know if it’s time to completely cut the toxic off. Cutting off the toxic falls into two categories…no contact and limited contact. Just remember that if you decide to take this option, you don’t have to explain why to the toxic person. No one owes anyone anything. We only owe it to ourselves to love ourselves and be happy.
There are so many other options to take when cutting off the toxic and it is okay to take any and all steps to be at peace. The best thing to do is to evaluate your situation, be honest about it being toxic, and prepare to move to healthy steps to release the toxicity. IT’S OKAY!